"Sunny days, everybody loves them. Tell me baby, can you stand the rain" -New Edition
Its a rainy day in NYC which made me think of that New Edition song. It has a good point. We all have those so-called "friends" who are around when everything is peachy. As soon as a "storm" comes around, they can't seem to weather the storm. In life we all go through good and bad times. Its during those bad times, we see who is really there for us. The person you can be closest to may not be the one who is there for you.
As we grow older we need to re-evaluate certain friendships. Keep in mind, just because the person isn't there through those bad times doesn't ALWAYS mean they aren't your friend. But it does say a lot about that person's character. If the person makes it a Habit of never being there, then that does determine his/her character. Friends come and go, but God is ALWAYS there for you. Don't pray only when you're in distress, God is there through the good, bad, and the ugly. He wants that friendship with you. Take my word, when you build a relationship with God, you will see which friends are really there for you. God will place positive people in your life to help you grow and follow that path. He will also show you negative people, so you can be wise and able to discern the real from the fake.
When your friendships enter adulthood, there has to be some kind of substance to it. If you're still talking about high school, your friendship has NOT grown. If all you do is party together, that's NOT a friendship of substance. A friend doesn't have to call you 24/7 but knowing you can count on them is important. Remember Family is number one. I know everyone's situation is different, but I know my family is always there for me. I am also thankful to have those very few friends that I know I can count on :)
I hope my readers are blessed with that as well :)
God Bless You All!
Friday, February 25, 2011
Wednesday, February 23, 2011
Too Pretty To Be Single????
"You're too pretty to be single"
I can't tell you how often men say this "phrase" to me........
I'm sure other females have heard this as well. I never knew your looks determined your relationship status. I don't consider anyone to be ugly. However; I do believe in Ugly Personalities. When I hear a man tell me I'm too pretty to be single, that makes him sound really vain. You shouldn't be seeking a relationship only based on looks. Everyone has their own level of attraction. I have a lot to offer someone and believe me it goes WAY beyond my looks. Media is causing us to believe that beauty is all based on looks. We need to learn how to get to know a person and learn whats on the INside, because at the end of the day its a man's/woman's personality you're going to have to deal with.
This was just a little venting post. Real short and to the point: Its NOT all about looks and looks shouldn't determine a relationship status!
Good Night My Readers :)
I can't tell you how often men say this "phrase" to me........
I'm sure other females have heard this as well. I never knew your looks determined your relationship status. I don't consider anyone to be ugly. However; I do believe in Ugly Personalities. When I hear a man tell me I'm too pretty to be single, that makes him sound really vain. You shouldn't be seeking a relationship only based on looks. Everyone has their own level of attraction. I have a lot to offer someone and believe me it goes WAY beyond my looks. Media is causing us to believe that beauty is all based on looks. We need to learn how to get to know a person and learn whats on the INside, because at the end of the day its a man's/woman's personality you're going to have to deal with.
This was just a little venting post. Real short and to the point: Its NOT all about looks and looks shouldn't determine a relationship status!
Good Night My Readers :)
Monday, February 21, 2011
Ladies, Let The Man Be The Man!
I haven't written a blog in a few days. This is gonna sound random but I know there is a lesson behind this somewhere,LOL.
This morning, I was thinking about this guy that I used to like. I mean I really liked him, not just because of his looks. He seemed to be the Mr "Quality". Great personality, good conversation, goals, and most importantly, he has a relationship with God. I mean what more can you ask for right?
I think I was a bit too assertive for him though. I am the type of woman to go after what I want in life period, but is that really a good thing as far as romance is involved?
I believe that men do appreciate an intelligent, successful woman who knows what she wants, but they more than likely won't appreciate a relationship being RUN by the woman.
One thing I can say is: DON'T CHASE A MAN!!
I know it's hard just sitting around waiting for him to ask you out or make all the plans. Men like to pursue, so they get turned off when they feel as if a woman is doing the chasing. But its also hard NOT to especially when you're really interested. This makes a lot of women confused.
As women, we think by sending text messages throughout the day or calling to make plans for dates is sweet and innocent. Its really not considered romantic for women to take that lead because then he feels out of control. You think you're being direct and honest by showing your interest in him, but in reality it just makes a woman look needy and maybe even desperate. You may want to "run the show" and maybe sometimes that will work and he will follow, but that's kind of a slim chance in my opinion.
I know its this whole "modern times" thing people will say. But I don't think this is something that will ever really change. Men want to be the MAN and I think a woman should let him be just that.
This is just my opinion from my experience. You don't necessarily have to play hard to get, but just let him come to you. If he's not making a move, he may either be shy OR he isn't interested. But don't feel bad about trying to go for what you want. At the end of the day, at least you tried, if it was meant to work out it would and will.
Also, being assertive is a good trait it can help you become successful in life, it just may not be successful as far as romance is concerned. LOL! Sorry to laugh about it, but really, on a serious note.
My advice would be to use these experiences as a learning lesson. Each day we grow and learn something as it relates to life. We should also work on applying it as well.
This morning, I was thinking about this guy that I used to like. I mean I really liked him, not just because of his looks. He seemed to be the Mr "Quality". Great personality, good conversation, goals, and most importantly, he has a relationship with God. I mean what more can you ask for right?
I think I was a bit too assertive for him though. I am the type of woman to go after what I want in life period, but is that really a good thing as far as romance is involved?
I believe that men do appreciate an intelligent, successful woman who knows what she wants, but they more than likely won't appreciate a relationship being RUN by the woman.
One thing I can say is: DON'T CHASE A MAN!!
I know it's hard just sitting around waiting for him to ask you out or make all the plans. Men like to pursue, so they get turned off when they feel as if a woman is doing the chasing. But its also hard NOT to especially when you're really interested. This makes a lot of women confused.
As women, we think by sending text messages throughout the day or calling to make plans for dates is sweet and innocent. Its really not considered romantic for women to take that lead because then he feels out of control. You think you're being direct and honest by showing your interest in him, but in reality it just makes a woman look needy and maybe even desperate. You may want to "run the show" and maybe sometimes that will work and he will follow, but that's kind of a slim chance in my opinion.
I know its this whole "modern times" thing people will say. But I don't think this is something that will ever really change. Men want to be the MAN and I think a woman should let him be just that.
This is just my opinion from my experience. You don't necessarily have to play hard to get, but just let him come to you. If he's not making a move, he may either be shy OR he isn't interested. But don't feel bad about trying to go for what you want. At the end of the day, at least you tried, if it was meant to work out it would and will.
Also, being assertive is a good trait it can help you become successful in life, it just may not be successful as far as romance is concerned. LOL! Sorry to laugh about it, but really, on a serious note.
My advice would be to use these experiences as a learning lesson. Each day we grow and learn something as it relates to life. We should also work on applying it as well.
Wednesday, February 9, 2011
Bonjour!
Today I'd like to discuss crushes that become infatuation. Everyone had or has someone they really like and can't stop thinking about. I think liking someone should come naturally and grow gradually. Its not something that should only go off visual attraction, make sure to get to know the person to be sure they are even worth liking. Make sure you like this person for the right reasons as well.
People tend to place "ideals" on others and expect them to be who they want to like. You got to BE YOURself, not who someone wants you to be for their vain and selfish reasons.
At times liking a person a lot can get you caught up, you become "infatuated".
Sometimes in life we see the things we want or think we want.....
We become blinded by this want to the point where it becomes a need.....when we do this we are causing our desires to exploit our minds and manipulate our hearts.
God knows your wants, but He will give you what you need. He knows us better than we know ourselves. Our flesh is weak and when we are not in that relationship with God, our minds can be easily swayed towards sin. "My flesh and my heart faileth; But God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever". Psalms 73:26
In matters of the heart, sometimes our desires for a man/woman become an infatuation. In the bible Jeremiah 17:9 says "The heart is deceitful above all things and it is corrupt, who can know it?". Not even we know our heart, maybe that's why it beats on the left because it is not always right......
God IS Love. When you know God you will know love, you will know your heart and will not be binded by unrequited love.
Sometimes we have to trust that even though we may not know our hearts, God does. He will set us in the right direction as we walk along that path of His grace. - 1 John 3:20 "because if our heart condemn us, God is greater than our heart, and knoweth all things".
You reap what you sow. Love God, yourself, and others and you will see amazing things happen in your life. We all grow in different paces but the goal should always be the same.
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Tuesday, February 8, 2011
Loving Others
The weather has been sort of good to us in NYC and the snows melting. Yep I feel the love! Lol.
Speaking of love, I want to discuss the love of others. Friends, family, and people in general. I think we as Christians should work on being compassionate.
Compassion stirs us to put Love into action and inspire us to meet the needs of others.
Jesus said "Love your neighbor as you love yourself". (Matthew 22:39). God knows our first thought is to take care of ourselves. If we think of others being just as important to us as we are, then we make them a priority. Caring for others is what love is all about.
God has an influence in our lives. As we grow, others can also see that. When we reflect this in our traits people become drawn to us and want to be around us.
Although; none of us are perfect and we all make mistakes, we should try to lead by good example.
As far as loving others is concerned, our Goal should be to strengthen, encourage, and build one another up. We should pray for each other and meet each other's needs.
Sometimes even a simple act of kindness or word can make an impact and change someone's life.
I hope my readers enjoy reading and are thinking about applying this to their lives.
God Bless You All :-)
Speaking of love, I want to discuss the love of others. Friends, family, and people in general. I think we as Christians should work on being compassionate.
Compassion stirs us to put Love into action and inspire us to meet the needs of others.
Jesus said "Love your neighbor as you love yourself". (Matthew 22:39). God knows our first thought is to take care of ourselves. If we think of others being just as important to us as we are, then we make them a priority. Caring for others is what love is all about.
God has an influence in our lives. As we grow, others can also see that. When we reflect this in our traits people become drawn to us and want to be around us.
Although; none of us are perfect and we all make mistakes, we should try to lead by good example.
As far as loving others is concerned, our Goal should be to strengthen, encourage, and build one another up. We should pray for each other and meet each other's needs.
Sometimes even a simple act of kindness or word can make an impact and change someone's life.
I hope my readers enjoy reading and are thinking about applying this to their lives.
God Bless You All :-)
Monday, February 7, 2011
Relationships For "Title"
I want to touch up on this topic because it is not something most people own up to. Some people jump into relationships because of the TITLE.Relationships for Titles
It could be for many reasons. Sometimes people just want to have someone to be with, so they can feel a part of certain social settings or discussions, or maybe they just want to fill a loneliness void.
This should NEVER be a reason to get into a relationship.
As young adults growing in Christ, we should seek a relationship with God first. After all, God IS LOVE.
God loves you, He created you, and longs to have a relationship with you.
If there is a feeling of loneliness in your life, let God fill that void. If you're looking for love why not first seek God's love?
God is the source of love and He created us with the ability to love. So that means no one can know as much about love as God does.
So when you're thinking about having a boyfriend/girlfriend make sure you First Love God, Love YOURSELF, and be sure you're in it for the Right reasons, not "just because".
God Bless My Readers :)
Time to Love YOU! :)
Since Valentine's Day is a week away. I'm going to focus this week's blogs on LOVE.
I'm hoping everyone is aware that you don't need just ONE day for love. Love should be a 24/7, 365 (366 leap year) thing.
You also don't need a boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife to feel like you have a Valentine. So to all you bitter single people out there CHEER UP! :-)
I want to discuss different types of love.
Today is all about Self-Love: Loving YOURself!
If you don't love yourself, who is going to love You? Don't cling on to others for love or to feel desireable. You can explore the universe looking for somebody who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and you will not find that person anywhere.
If you're single take this time to learn more about yourself. Seek God for answers because God is love.
Learn about what you have to offer in a relationship. So many people get into relationships just for the "title", or because its "cuffing season".
When they do this they have nothing to really offer their partner because for them its all about a title and passing time.
Relationships require more giving than taking and should be equal. Loving yourself allows you to give others the love they deserve, and it will be right.
When you know God's love and you love YOURself, you will know how to love others.
I hope you all enjoy reading so far. I will touch up on this whole relationship "title" thing as well on the next blog. :)
God Bless You All! And remember Love Yourself!
I'm hoping everyone is aware that you don't need just ONE day for love. Love should be a 24/7, 365 (366 leap year) thing.
You also don't need a boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife to feel like you have a Valentine. So to all you bitter single people out there CHEER UP! :-)
I want to discuss different types of love.
Today is all about Self-Love: Loving YOURself!
If you don't love yourself, who is going to love You? Don't cling on to others for love or to feel desireable. You can explore the universe looking for somebody who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and you will not find that person anywhere.
If you're single take this time to learn more about yourself. Seek God for answers because God is love.
Learn about what you have to offer in a relationship. So many people get into relationships just for the "title", or because its "cuffing season".
When they do this they have nothing to really offer their partner because for them its all about a title and passing time.
Relationships require more giving than taking and should be equal. Loving yourself allows you to give others the love they deserve, and it will be right.
When you know God's love and you love YOURself, you will know how to love others.
I hope you all enjoy reading so far. I will touch up on this whole relationship "title" thing as well on the next blog. :)
God Bless You All! And remember Love Yourself!
Sunday, February 6, 2011
I started a BLOG! :)
This is my first official post. I have been thinking about doing this for awhile now and from reading my friend Bernie's blog (will get a link to that later), I decided now is the time to start.
I know some people don't like to read, but my aim is to hopefully inspire others with my thoughts and perspectives in a Christian point of view.
Being saved and single and a young woman, isn't easy. When you accept that call and start to grow on that path with Jesus is a process. It is so worth it, but like I said it isn't easy.
Things change for you once you start to grow spiritually and you begin to see things for what they really are. Your life has changed once you called on Jesus' name. The things you used to do, you don't do anymore. You develop a conscience, a moral, and the Holy Spirit guides you to become wise and discern certain things.
An example of things that change is friendships.
Sometimes the people we call BFFs and were extremely close with; grow apart. This is not a bad thing and it does not mean that because you are saved you should just shut others out. It just means that you are growing on a spiritual level which they may not be on OR they aren't ready to be on. Because so many things are changing in your life, you may not feel that closeness. You may even come to find out that now you guys have nothing in common.
I personally like to surround myself with like-minded people. The people who are also growing with Christ like me because they will be able to understand certain things I am going through more versus those who aren't saved.
We are young adults now, and our friendships need to align with that.
Conversations should advance from (talking about "BOYS", gossip, parties). Let's talk about Life goals, MEN, growth with Christ, transition into adulthood, careers, family.
I have learned that you cannot have these types of conversations with everyone, they have to also have a mature outlook on things. Relationships; whether friendship or romance, is all about RELATING to one another.
How can you have a Relationship if you can't RELATE??
Just think about that question......
My advice is: Seek God and grow within yourself. Then you will be wise enough to discern friendship woes. God knows what He is doing and will surround us with those friends who will get us where we Need to be, which is on that path of His grace :)
I will be posting again soon!
GOD BLESS ALL MY READERS!
I know some people don't like to read, but my aim is to hopefully inspire others with my thoughts and perspectives in a Christian point of view.
Being saved and single and a young woman, isn't easy. When you accept that call and start to grow on that path with Jesus is a process. It is so worth it, but like I said it isn't easy.
Things change for you once you start to grow spiritually and you begin to see things for what they really are. Your life has changed once you called on Jesus' name. The things you used to do, you don't do anymore. You develop a conscience, a moral, and the Holy Spirit guides you to become wise and discern certain things.
An example of things that change is friendships.
Sometimes the people we call BFFs and were extremely close with; grow apart. This is not a bad thing and it does not mean that because you are saved you should just shut others out. It just means that you are growing on a spiritual level which they may not be on OR they aren't ready to be on. Because so many things are changing in your life, you may not feel that closeness. You may even come to find out that now you guys have nothing in common.
I personally like to surround myself with like-minded people. The people who are also growing with Christ like me because they will be able to understand certain things I am going through more versus those who aren't saved.
We are young adults now, and our friendships need to align with that.
Conversations should advance from (talking about "BOYS", gossip, parties). Let's talk about Life goals, MEN, growth with Christ, transition into adulthood, careers, family.
I have learned that you cannot have these types of conversations with everyone, they have to also have a mature outlook on things. Relationships; whether friendship or romance, is all about RELATING to one another.
How can you have a Relationship if you can't RELATE??
Just think about that question......
My advice is: Seek God and grow within yourself. Then you will be wise enough to discern friendship woes. God knows what He is doing and will surround us with those friends who will get us where we Need to be, which is on that path of His grace :)
I will be posting again soon!
GOD BLESS ALL MY READERS!
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